Travelling as a couple is a great way to experience new things and create long-lasting memories together. It can also help you learn more about yourself, your partner and your relationship.
Like all aspects of a relationship, there are going to be up and down. Here are my top tips for making sure you have the best time while travelling as a couple.
Figure out your travel style
Everyone has a different style when it comes to travel. Some people love to go with the flow; others like to plan. Different styles each will have a different dynamic. When travelling as a couple, it’s important to figure out your styles and how they will mesh together.
If both of you are planners, make sure one of you doesn’t take over and leave the other person feeling like they have no control. If both of you love going with the flow, make sure you have a way to handle things if you want to flow in different directions.
I’m a planner, but my partner prefers to be more spontaneous. To make sure we’re both happy, I’ll plan out all the must to activities on certain days. Then the rest of the time is free for whatever when decide to do once we’re in our destination.
What every your style, make sure you talk about it before you go away. No matter what combo you are, there is a way to make them work together.
Talk about and decide on a budget.
Are you going on a luxury adventure, or are you on a shoestring budget? Each type of trip has the potential to be amazing or leave one of you disappointed. You and your partner must be on the same page when it comes to money.
It’s best to have this conversation early. It will help you figure out your timeframe for saving, accommodation and activities.
While you have your money chat, it’s also a good idea to decide what you each want to prioritise. You might be more interested in skipping the flash room but splashing out on fancy dinners. Your partner might care more about doing one super epic activity rather than lots of small ones.
Once you’ve got everything out in the open, decide how much money you’re going to need and where you’re going to spend it.
Have an open mind
Part of going on a trip together is doing activities together. While you might be able to plan a holiday where you both equally enjoy everything you do, it doesn’t always happen.
If you’ve agreed to do something that wasn’t your first pick and your partner is excited, don’t go in with a negative attitude. Embrace new experiences with an open mind and enthusiasm. Who knows you might end up enjoying it?
It’s ok to do things by yourself.
Sometimes travelling as a couple means doing things solo. If there is something you don’t want or something, your partner doesn’t want to do it ok to go solo for a bit. Talk about the fact that you might want to do separate things before you head on your trip. Make sure when you do go off on your own it’s done positively and not in a “fine, whatever, do what you want,” kind of way.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to go and do your own thing for a bit. Have fun and then meet up afterwards. Share stories about the awesome adventure you had (or the relaxing time you had by the pool).
Have a plan in case you get separated
Sometimes you plan to go your separate ways, other times it happens by accident. When you head out for the day, have a plan for what you’re going to do if you get separated. This is especially important if you don’t have a working cell phone or access to the internet.
Pick a spot to meet up or agree an amount of time to wait before you head back to your accommodation. This is not an ideal situation, and your main goal should be to avoid it. If it does happen, having a plan will make things less stressful.
Make the most of it when things go wrong.
The first time my partner and I visited Bangkok for two day things did not go according to plan. Several places we wanted to visit weren’t open, we wait in line at the famous Sky Bar for an hour before being told it was closed due to bad weather and we finished the night by wading through knee-high floodwater.
When we got back to our hotel room, it also ended up flooding. My partner slipped and fell flat on his back.
Thankfully the hotel gave us a new room but when we woke up the next day we were both pretty done. We spent the day waiting for a flight by the pool drinking cocktails and laughing about how ridiculous it was that so many things when wrong.
Things don’t always go to plan, and when they don’t, it’s important to stick together and try to find the funny side. Sometimes time terrible times are just as good of a bonding experience as the great times.
Take pictures together
I don’t mean arms out selfies, get your whole body in the picture. Nothing against an arm out selfie but make sure these aren’t the only photos you take. Often you’ll only see your faces, and it won’t be easy to see the location you’re in.
Asking a stranger to take a photo of you is always an option. However, if you’re not comfortable with this grab a lightweight tripod. My tripod also came with a Bluetooth remote, which make taking multiple photo’s super easy.
Another option is to put your camera on video mode and the take screenshot of the frames you like.